The Lodge at Sonoma Resort
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Our official home for the weekend is The Lodge at Sonoma. Just five minutes from our wedding at Cornerstone Garden, The Lodge will also be house our welcome party and farewell brunch, making it the perfect home base for the weekend.

Nestled among lush gardens, winding pathways, and beautiful wine country landscaping, The Lodge feels like a peaceful retreat while still being just minutes from Sonoma Plaza.

We spent nearly a week here while planning our wedding, and it quickly became our home away from home. We can't wait to be back and see these beautiful grounds filled with all of our favorite people.

While we'd love to have as many of our guests as possible staying at The Lodge, we know everyone has different budgets and travel styles. Below are a few additional hotels we recommend, along with plenty of nearby vacation rentals if that's more your style.

Familiar hotel brand options an easy drive from Sonoma

Need a little inspiration?
Coming soon: a few ideas below to help capture the look and feel of Golden Hour Formal.

Your presence is truly the greatest gift we could ask for.

We feel incredibly lucky to have all we really need: a home we love, work that fulfills us, each other, and the unwavering love and support of our family and friends. Having everyone together to celebrate this next chapter means more to us than anything.

If you'd like to honor us with a gift, we've created a fund to help us embark on our next adventures: our honeymoon and our family-building journey. We're deeply grateful for contributions of any size.

If you'd prefer to celebrate by giving back, we'd be equally honored by a donation in our names to one of the organizations that are especially meaningful to us: Advocates for Trans Equality, The Trevor Project, Out & Equal, the ACLU, Zebra Youth, or Planned Parenthood.

When is the big day?

We'll be getting married on Friday, May 21, 2027, in Sonoma, California!

We recommend arriving by Thursday, May 20 so you can join us for our Welcome Reception, and staying through Saturday, May 22 to celebrate one last time at our Farewell Event.

You can find the full weekend schedule on our The Weekend page.

Where are you getting married?

Our wedding will take place at Cornerstone Gardens in Sonoma, California.

Our home away from home for the weekend is The Lodge at Sonoma, just five minutes from Cornerstone and host our Welcome Party and Farewell Celebration.

You'll find everything you need to plan your trip, including airports, hotels, and transportation, on our Travel and Stay pages.

When will more details be available?

You're seeing an early look at our wedding weekend! We'll continue updating this website as plans come together over the coming months.

Our formal invitations will arrive this Winter with RSVP details and everything you'll need to celebrate with us. Until then, this website is the best place to find the latest information.

Why Sonoma, CA?

Wine country is one of our favorite places in the world. We never get tired of the rolling hills, vibrant wildflowers, hot air balloons at sunrise, and incredible food. Most importantly, it's where we got engaged and spent some of our favorite days together.

When it came time to choose where we'd begin this next chapter, there was nowhere that felt more like us. We wanted to celebrate somewhere that means so much to us, and somewhere we knew everyone we love could find their own favorite way to enjoy the weekend, whether that's wine tasting, exploring charming towns, relaxing by the pool, or simply soaking in the scenery.

We can't wait to share this special place with all of you.

What should I wear?

Our dress code is Golden Hour Formal.

You'll find all the details, inspiration, and our color palette on our What to Wear page.

What is the weather like in Sonoma in May?

Late May is one of our favorite times of year in Sonoma. Expect warm, sunny days with daytime temperatures typically in the 70s, while evenings can cool into the 50s.

Our ceremony and celebration will take place primarily outdoors, so we recommend bringing a layer for later in the evening. You'll find more attire inspiration and recommendations on our What to Wear page.

Will there be traditions or rituals?

Yes! But in our own unique way. We're excited to incorporate Jewish traditions that honor our heritage while reimagining them in a way that reflects who we are and what we value.

Think heartfelt moments, intentional symbolism, and a celebration grounded in love, family, and community.

How can we celebrate with you respectfully?

The greatest gift is showing up as yourself and sharing in our joy. Kindness, openness, and celebration of all love are always in style.

Eli uses they/them pronouns, and Ashley uses she/her and they/them pronouns interchangeably.

We ask that everyone approach each other with the same warmth and curiosity, taking care not to assume anyone’s gender or pronouns, instead ensuring that everyone we consider family feels seen, respected, and celebrated.

How do I get to Sonoma?

We've put together everything you need to know about airports, driving, rental cars, and getting around wine country on our Travel page.

Where should I stay?

Our host hotel is The Lodge at Sonoma, we hope as many people as possible join us there. We'll also be gathering at The Lodge for our Welcome Party and Farewell Celebration.

There are tons of incredible places to stay in Wine Country. More information and additional hotel recommendations are available on our Stay page.

Is your wedding accessible?

Accessibility is a core part of how we're planning our wedding weekend. We want everyone to feel welcomed, supported, and able to fully participate in the celebration.

Our RSVP will include a place to share any accessibility needs, accommodations, dietary restrictions, or allergies so we can thoughtfully plan a celebration where everyone feels cared for.

Our reception will also include a dedicated sensory space for anyone who would like a quiet place to step away and recharge. Please feel free to bring anything that helps make the space most comfortable for you.

If there's anything we can do to make the weekend more comfortable or accessible for you, we'd truly love to know. Please don't hesitate to reach out.

Do you have a registry?

Your presence is truly the greatest gift we could ask for.

If you'd like to honor us with a gift, we've created a honeymoon and family planning fund, along with the opportunity to support several organizations that are meaningful to us.

You can learn more on our Registry page.

How can I stay updated?

This website will always have the latest information about our wedding weekend, including travel details, accommodations, and any updates as they come together.

We'll continue adding information here as the big day gets closer, so be sure to check back from time to time.